Men LOVE Women; Women Love MONEY!

Confession, I have been fighting an internal battle on whether to express my views on this topic or not...Clearly you see for yourself which side of the battle was defeated! Now some may say I am biased, some say contraversial - the truth is, I speak/type my mind and am not too concerned about what people think, why? Because I write my interpretation based off of my experiences, and the thing about an experience is that each is unique. We may both look at the same situation and interpret it differently - It's kind of what makes us human eh?  OK, enough of the buttering up - I know I'm going to receive hate mail and angry phone calls from many of you anyway so I don't even know why I bother....here it goes...

Since the beginning of time, men have been given the position of provider. In the days of cavemen - we see a distinctive separation of roles. The men went out into the fields to hunt, kill for food and take home to the women. The women on the other hand were essentially responsible for everything else i.e. taking care of the children, farming, cooking, tending to the men and the list goes on and on. When it comes to marriage, it was customary for the male to present the female's family with livestock (goats, sheep, cows, etc...) or anything that would be considered valuable to the family before being "awarded" the woman. If the family was happy with the offering, DONE DEAL! Off he was with his prize and hopefully they lived happily ever after! Additionally, if the man was rich and owned many herds of different livestock and possessed many items of value - he could simply repeat this process and end up with several "wives" to be at his beck and call.

If you think about it - how much have things really changed? From a young age a woman is taught to bring home a provider, someone who is financially able to maintain or better the lifestyle provided by her parent(s). So when a woman comes of age and is looking to settle down, there is no surprise that she begins to assess a man for what he has, and what he can provide to make her life and subsequently the lives of her children better. Based on this knowledge it is pretty easy to see why some men stop at nothing to be able to "acquire what they most desire." It has been said that many wars have been fought and thousands have been killed over a single woman. Let's take it down a few notches - How many of you know a man who has done something completely out of character just to get the attention of a woman? I'm not sure any man can say he doesn't fall into that category, myself included.

I remember a very long time ago - I was a skinny teenager wanting to impress this really cute older girl. We went swimming and she said to me "why am I seeing all those bones in your back," referring to my vertebral bones. I wanted to impress her so badly, that I spent the entire summer at my grandmother's house (who is known for providing 7 major feedings per day - shout out to Miss V!) in an effort  to fatten myself up so she wouldn't see my bones protruding anymore. Not only am I still trying to recover from that stupid decision made almost 2 decades later, I didn't even get the girl. she ended up with someone who didn't have bones protruding, but he couldn't see his toes either....go figure.

I digress, the point is this - for the love and affection of a woman - a man will try to move mountains.Luckily, in this day and age, that equates to simply having enough money to provide a comfortable life for her. What is the definition of a comfortable life for a modern day woman you may ask? House, car, exotic vacations, 5 star hotels, 5 star restaurants, memorable nights out on the town, money for but not limited to: shopping, manicures, pedicures, body scrubs, waxing, massages, hair maintenance, yoga classes and a gym membership - just off the top of my head. Now of course this example isn't a one size fits all for every woman - but I find that the women who are highly sought after, tend to look for someone who has the ability to provide these things (at a minimum)...

The interesting thing about a woman who finds a man who is in a position to provide these things, is that he is also highly sought after by other desirable women who will stop at nothing to get him. In many cases based on the man's financial prowess - he is now in a situation where he is not only able to "aquire the one he desires," he also gets to add to his collection as he sees fit. Many times with all parties involved being well aware of the situation. And that ladies and gentlemen, is how I came up with the title for this blog post. It is a vicious cycle we are in and wealthy men are becoming harder to find, but physically beautiful, desirable women seem to be a dime a dozen. Seems like an economics equation of supply and demand. Either way, in the end -  isn't it money that actually wins?

By this point there are many women saying - "Well this blog doesn't describe me at all, this is so one sided, where is he finding these women anyway?" This is where I turn the spotlight on myself. While thinking about expressing my views about this topic I had a moment of self discovery. I keep "finding" and ending up with women that would be considered needy by any practical thinking person. Whether it is they need a motivator, financial backer, someone to provide emotional strength or even a mediator between them and the world...I always seem to fill a void (or two) which I eventually grow to resent. This has lead me to the conclusion that I am attracted to and seek out women who seem to lack one of my strengths, then work on filling the void which in turn fills my need to be wanted, needed, and appreciated. The issue is not with the women at all....I am fighting a battle against myself.

Why is it that I am so attracted to these women? Why have I been so willing to provide a helping hand wherever I saw a void I could fill? Why do I seek that feeling of appreciation and worth in a relationship so desperately? Is this coming from my childhood, the way I was grown up or the people I surrounded myself with? I am still working on the answers to these questions but, recognizing the root of the problem is the first step towards growth. Accepting your flaws also helps you to be able to identify them in others and know how to work with and around them if necessary. Now I have the task of changing my mindset on who and how I approach women when it comes to relationships (as if meeting new people wasn't hard enough). The mountain is high and the journey is long, but one step at a time in the right direction - eventually get's us to the peak.

...And to To my loyal readers, share your thoughts in the comments section - Let me know your feelings on the subject. Remember too that whether I post on a weekly, monthly or annual basis...mi love unnuh like how dry skin love lotion. Walk good until we meet again!














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