I'm Back!!! HELLO 2013!

When are we getting a new post? Don't you have more to write about? Are you stepping away from the blog? These are some of the questions I've been asked by my readers. Well, since my last post, many changes have happened in my life, some not so positive - as a result - I wasn't in the best mental space (like I was prior to that eh?) to write about what I consider to be "My Truth." Am I ready now? You be the judge...but someone once told me  - you won't know the temperature of the pool unless you dip your toes into the water. To my loyal, concerned, appreciative readers - This is my way of dipping my toes into the water.
2012 was a trying year for many people - for me, it was actually looking up. I had just secured a job with a great company, my relationship was in a good place, and I was just starting to shake off the effects of being laid off and unemployed for almost 2 years (effects never go completely away)...things were good. Then in the middle of the year I realized that I wasn't in a very healthy relationship - there were many things that were good, but the things that weren't, created an imbalance on the relationship on a whole. Neither of us had been happy for a while, more content and used to the routine. It took her going away on vacation for 10 days and me being home alone for a while to really understand and assess what was really going on. I will spare you the details but, I will tell you this - If you are a reader of my blog - most all of the answers are in previous posts....That being said - IT IS A NEW DAY!!!!! The sun is shining, the birds are chirping and I feel like a NEW MAN!

I am very thankful for my last relationship because I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and the characteristics I need in a mate/life partner to be happy long term. I also have a better grip on what to look out for that just won't work for me (RED FLAGS). The funny thing is - that most of us see the red flags in the beginning, but choose to ignore them - I won't ignore them the next time around. You live and you learn - chalk it up to experience. I just hope now we can both move on and find people better suited for each other and be happy the way we want to be happy. And that's how I feel about that!

Right after the break up, my dad came to spend some time with me - it was a scheduled trip that just happened to be timed perfectly. It was around my birthday (October 22nd) and it gave us a lot of time to bond and little time for me to dwell on my failed relationship. We worked out together, we critiqued movies, music and women.....it was like having a roommate in college (except he could boss you around - lol). It was a great experience and it really showed me how cool my dad can be as a friend in addition to being a great father. After he left I continued my workout routine, he hooked me up with a gym membership and trainer and I really started focusing on work and working out. Drowning myself in these activities has really helped me through a tough time in my life. When I give, I give 110% all day , every day so it takes me some time to recover from a break up. I was sad, disappointed and maybe even a little depressed for a time but I did things that made me feel good about myself to help absorb the hurt from the pain.

So Christmas is coming up and the new year.....this is usually a happy time when people make it a duty to spend time with their family, friends, and significant other. For me, I was gearing up for it to be a reminder that I was alone....but then out of the blue a friend of mine (Deuce) called me up and said "Yow!, what you doing for New Year's?" I said "No plans, wanna go to Key West?" He said "Hell yeah!!!" and that's what we did! We had an amazing time....We stayed at a 5 star hotel (hoping to meet 5 star caliber women by the pool), we rented scooters and checked out all the attractions the island had to offer. We went to all the best eateries, experienced both the Conch Shell  & world famous Shoe Drop. It was a lot of fun - I was out of my element but it was an experience for the books.

We spent some time at a spa which I would recommend to everyone! It's called PraNa Spa - and it's amazing....Got a full body scrub, and massage....2 hours of total niceness. Oh there is this place we had the most amazing breakfast - It's called Blue Heaven. You will have to wait to get a seat - but it was more than worth it in my opinion!!!!  Delightful. The most memorable part of the short vacay though was waking up at 6:30 am to go Jet skiing around the island and watching the sunrise on the first day of 2013. What a way to bring in the year! As a bonus - check out the video Deuce and I put together for you to get a better feel for the trip...enjoy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0aX1vBQqchI

So far '13 has been very positive and already memorable (and it's only February 2nd - lol). I promise to get back into writing a bit more consistently - maybe not as consistently as before, but enough to keep you fed and not look like you are suffering from blog content anorexia. Thanks for the continued support....Until next time....Mi love unnuh like pancakes love syrup.

















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