Who Needs A Biological Father! PART II - By Deuce

Ladies and Gentlemen, last week I introduced you to Deuce (Good friend of mine) who shared some details about his strained relationship with his "father." This week wraps up the conclusion of his piece....I bring you a look into the life of Deuce....

Who Needs A Biological Father! PART II

36 years years old now and last year I let go of the past for the last time when it comes to my "sperm donor" and our so called relationship. He let me down for the last time and now I've stopped giving out chances to be let down. I always tell people that you have to be responsible for what happens to you in life. No one can do anything to you unless you allow them. It's something I truly believe and I fell victim to myself!

Over the years my fathers made promises and set high expectations and constantly failed to deliver. So why would this time be any different? After relocating to Florida in 2010 after being laid off from a great job I had for 13 years, I wanted a fresh start in a new place that I could see myself settling down and make more permanent roots. The first few months I spent some time with my father figuring that things would turnaround but too much time had passed and many other obstacles had presented themselves. Namely his wife whom he had a rocky relationship with. From outside it looked fine but from within, a purely evil person lurked - I'm convinced this woman did not have a soul. Trust me when I say that I'm not exaggerating, but that's for another post.

Fast forward, after several months of absolutely no communication with him, which was my decision, my birthday comes around in late November. Being grateful for all the birthday well wishes, I receive a call from my father while on another call. I had already decided that I wasn't going to take the call, but while ending the other call his call was picked up. The usual awkward pause was present, then he started in, wishing me happy birthday and  asking me what I was doing later that evening. I was thrown back, somewhat but noted that I had plans and today was no good for me. I hope he wasn't expecting me to drop my plans for him. He asked if he could take me out maybe the next day which was a Sunday. I reluctantly agreed because of my past experience with him and the fact that we haven't spoken in a few months. At this point I had mixed emotions and was skeptical to say the least, but I was talked into believing that he was making a conscious  effort by some friends that knew the situation.

The plan was this; He was to call Sunday morning and we were to meet up to go out. What do you think happened? Exactly what always happens, I never heard from him that day and several weeks later when I left Florida to move back north I still hadn't heard from him. Big surprise, I should have known from all my past experiences that this would have been more of the same. But the inner boy yearning for his father reared it's ugly head even though I knew better.

I received a phone call Christmas morning which I did not take, and made the decision with a level head and a settled heart that this relationship was not good for me and was over. Yes he will always be the person whom I share DNA, but just like cancer, it needs to be cut out so that you can be healthy and live a long and fulfilling life. My father is a disease in which I have rid my body and life of, and since my revelation and cure, life has been looking up!

So when I asked the question "Who needs a biological father" I say not me. Blood may be thicker than water but  blood isn't what makes a family. Sometimes the family you make can be stronger than the one your born into.

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Wow! What can I say outside of THANKS! Thanks to Deuce for digging so deep and sharing such intimate details with us about this part of his life. It takes a lot to grab the horn by the head and deal with such a major issue in one's life. I for one am proud of you for trying your best to make amends - but I am even more elated about the fact that you followed your heart, took a stand and now feel you have made the right decision. Looking forward to seeing you use writing as an outlet for dealing with your emotions....and know this - You will always have friends and family who love and support you - me included!

.....And to my loyal readers - since Deuce's debut article last week, people have been asking me if they can also make contributions to my blog - The answer is YES! If you think you have what it takes to write a compelling piece that is relevant to this blog - I am interested in hearing you out. Send me an email (occupationunemployedemail@gmail.com). And remember - I love you all as much as cold feet love warm socks. Until next time - Walk good!







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